j'adore fabulosity

Fabulous is as Fabulous Does

Fabulous is...

Personal. Fabulousness is being unique and individual and not giving two cares about what anyone else thinks or feels about who you are. Being fab is more than just what you where or how you look. It transcends the physical and consists of completeness: not only looking great, but also feeling great and being great. Being fabulous is about swag. Crazy swag. You have it or you don't.

...As Fabulous Does

"A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left" -Marilyn Monroe

Feeling Some Type of Way

Jealousy is a strong emotion. It can make ordinarily sane people do some crazy things. Ok, so you messed around with someone. Maybe it was your man or your girl, maybe it was a situation you wanted to progress into something more, or maybe it was just that thing you did to pass the time. No matter what it was, for whatever reasons, it's over now and that other person wants so badly for you to feel some type of way about what used to be. You've moved on and they say they've moved on, so what is the problem? Selfishness and jealousy.

I like to call these people THE DISSENTERS. They are that oppositional force that prevent you from moving forward in your life. Relationships and unrealized dreams from your past encounters together bring much animosity to your current situation. They are stuck in the past. Living and lingering in there own regret of what they missed. They resent the fact that the best thing they ever could have had is now gone, and they are unhappy. It's cliché but true: misery loves company. They are miserable in their own existence, sad without you, and jealous of the fact that you are doing better and better. So what do they do? Anything in their power to bring you down.

Me feeling NO type of way about my dissenters!

They lie, they hate, they try to make you jealous, and do whatever it takes to destroy any good thing in your life. They make it clear, through their actions that you and your situation are something that they still feel some type of way about. If they really "move on" they would be indifferent or even happy for you, wishing you the best. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Hate is only an embodiment of the passion and emotion they still carry for you. But just because they feel some type of way doesn't mean you have to, too. Their issue is just that, their issue. They need to deal with festering feelings and resentment without you: it's not your responsibility. We cannot allow other people's problems and inability to let go of the past stop our forward progress.

When an encounter is over, it is healthy to move on, because in due time everything must come to an end. So don't feel bad about not feeling some type of way about what used to be. Coulda, woulda, shoulda aren't important ideas in the present. These thoughts actually aren't important ever. You cannot live your life looking backward. If the relationship ended, it ended for a reason. Believe that all things happen for the best. Understanding this will allow us rise above the bullshit that dissenters may bring.


  1. Jordan M said...

    I think your 100% right and that these "dissenters" as you call them, can be anybody around us and they are not always recognizable at first. Although negative they can motivate to new heights in life. Keep writing the truth, you are truly talented. Your voice speaks for many. Love u

  2. Anonymous said...

    People stay feelin some type of way and pretending that they dont!! lol i luv u ms. Lee : )


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