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Fabulous is as Fabulous Does

Fabulous is...

Personal. Fabulousness is being unique and individual and not giving two cares about what anyone else thinks or feels about who you are. Being fab is more than just what you where or how you look. It transcends the physical and consists of completeness: not only looking great, but also feeling great and being great. Being fabulous is about swag. Crazy swag. You have it or you don't.

...As Fabulous Does

"A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left" -Marilyn Monroe

Body Counts

What is the big issue with body counts? I just never have really understood the purpose and/or importance of this question. The dating, relationship, hook-up, jumpoff, or whatever you and another person are doing will be going perfectly well, then someone wants to ask this question. This is where feelings get hurt. It's really just one big game, and there is no right answer. Females ask this knowing that they really don't want the answer because if the number is too low you think, "What's wrong with him?" and if the number is too high you don't feel "special" anymore because you have to face the reality that all those lines he's been whispering in your ear are all just apart of his game that has worked on you and so many before you. Men ask this question and use the answer to determine two things: if a girl is a bust down and how easy it will be for him to hit. But lets be honest, if you took it to the point of even discussing body counts you were probably gonna hit anyway, no matter what her answer was.

But the thing is you would still be going off of an assumption because someone's body count does not necessarily represent where they are and who they are in life right now. Someone could have easily been loose when they were younger, have had a change of heart, and could have had none or very few partners since then. Likewise, someone could have remained a virgin for a while, lost it then had multiple partners in succession, this doesn't make them a hoe, just someone trying to see what they can see. So these assumptions we make really can make asses out of us. Another person might ask this question before a sexual encounter because they don't want to be put at risk for contracting a STD, which is smart, but if you were really smart you wouldn't take an acquaintance's word about his or her sexual history. I'm all about protecting yourself because STD's are all to real out here, but how you sound believing whatever some says about their sexual behavior as truth. That could really be your life you in the balance. Trusting someone is great and all, but the only person I trust with my life is Jesus. If you really love yourself, your life and want to be safe go with your partner or soon-to-be partner and get tested and wrap it before you tap it every single time and forget this dumb question that lures individuals into a false sense of security and leads to misrepresentations.

A friend of mine and I recently decided that no matter who asks, the answer will be three because honestly the actual count doesn't matter. It is an arbitrary assignment that people use to put their partners in a box. I personally don't buy into the whole idea. I'm me. You should be more interested in finding out who I am than how many people I've been with. That should be what determines how you feel about me not a body count. That number doesn't define me.


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