This one is bound to bring controversy but I just gotta say it. So recently I've been listening to The Dream Love Vs. Money Album specifically the tracks Love Vs. Money and Love Vs. Money 2. It has really made me think about motives and the nature of relationships between men and women. For most it is a war of the worlds. There is an innate desire to be financially stable as well as to be loved. A woman who uses money as a defining criteria within a relationship is automatically given the title gold digger, and I can't say this is necessarily fair. As a woman, I want to feel as though the man I'm with can take care of me even though I don't necessarily need him to. The ability to do so if need be is the security that I know some women seek. Now please don't get it twisted. I CAN provide for myself. Ms. Independent, She got her own, and all that good stuff, BUT I still need someone that's doing the same or even better than me because if I settle for a man who isn't in pursuit of success and financial gains we don't want the same things. I'm trying to do better and better in my life and I just need someone who's doing the same and I hate to be blunt but the ambitious, hard-working, driven type of man usually ain't the broke one. I'm just sayin. Don't get me wrong...money and success should never be the grounds upon which we base a relationship, but it doesn't make you a gold digger if it's factored into the decision. Dream's song addresses another issue: the fact that love didn't exist in a relationship and someone attempts to fix the problem with money. That's a much bigger issue. But just because a woman seeks a man with financial stability does not make her a gold digger...It makes her smart.
Now, I have to borrow a line from Drake and say a lot of people be thinking my blog is about them...this is not to get confused. This one really IS about you...
So many people have so much to say about me and the contents of my blog. I think it's hilarious. People say oh who is she to judge? She think she's better? She wilds out more than anyone else. and I have never felt the need to defend my actions or what I write but there comes a time when some need to be enlightened, so I'm about to go to work.
(Clears Throat and steps onto her Soapbox)
My blog is real. I say what is true to me and to life as I know it. You might not understand it or like it because it's not what you know or what you can even comprehend...and that's ok. You're not me so at the end of the day my life experience won't be yours. I have seen and been through things some people wouldn't dream of so when someone has a problem with what I write it's just that: their problem.
Sometimes it hurts for people to hear what's true, and I speak from EXPERIENCE. That's the funny thing people are quick to negate, skip over, and conveniently not read when they access my blog. Everything I write has a component where I speak about myself and my own struggles with all the topics. So when I write it might seem judgmental but it's only a reflection on decisions I have also made.
You might have seen me on facebook but remember you don't know me. Everyone thinks they know but they have no idea so don't accept everything you hear because that will only leave you misinformed. This is only a glimpse into who I am, and it serves as a release and my attempt to help someone else learn a lesson I learned the hard way. So when you wanna feel some type of way and get in an uproar it's probally because you can directly relate to the truth I speak.
Raw honestly can be a hard pill to swallow, so if you don't like it don't read it. My blog is just that...MY BLOG. I have the right to say whatever I like and I choose truth. What I write is not geared toward those who live in a fantasy world and can't embrace reality. At the end of the day I don't do it for anyone but myself. Some people won't ever like me or what I have to say, and I'm good with that. There hate just continues to give me promo.
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